Proverbs 31:11 “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her,
so that he shall have no need of spoil.”
What does it mean to have a heart “trust safely” in you? What does it mean to be a trustworthy woman? One of the questions addressed in the Parker Valley fictional series of books about three sisters who face enormous obstacles is how one becomes trustworthy like the woman described in Proverbs 31. In today’s world, is it possible to have a heart that is so in tune with Scripture that it is trustworthy in all situations?
One problem facing young women of today is that even the appearance of wrong doing can plant the seed of doubt and destroy your witness. It does no good to say, “Although my friends do this, I do not.” The fact is that when you associate with the violent, the crude and those who are lax in morality, it cannot help but rub off on you, whether you are an active participant or not.
Does this mean that you should not be friends with someone who does something wrong or that you should abandon your friends if their behavior is questionable? Of course not. What it does mean, however, is that you must be constantly vigilant and think about what you are associating yourself with in your personal relationships. Choose the high road, the high ground and the friends who walk there. When you do, they will help you maintain your integrity.
Just like the trustworthy woman in Proverbs 31, you must be worthy of trust. This means that you should live your life so that those you love can always count on you to do the right thing. Notice the description of this woman: she is worthy of her husband’s good opinion. He knew in his heart that it was not necessary for her husband to keep a jealous guard over her or to lock up his valuables. He knew that he could trust her because of her behavior in all circumstances and because she avoided even the appearance of poor behavior. Just like the Parker Valley girls learn to always give the appearance of trustworthiness, so must we!