If Your Family Observed You For the First Time, What Would Their Opinion Be?

Proverbs 31:28 “Her children arise up, and call her blessed;
her husband [also], and he praiseth her.”

What you think about in private is just as important as what you do in public.  In your private moments are when true character and virtue are built.  Man looks on the outside, but God sees and knows the heart!  A trustworthy woman, like the one described in Proverbs 28, is the same in her home as she is in public.  One of the lessons learned by the girls in theParker Valley series is that what you grow inside your heart will become your reality and ultimately determine your character.

According to Proverbs 31, the virtuous woman’s husband and children, who know her best, see her unselfishness and the love and care that she has for all of them. They are proud of her. She is a good mother and wife, and they let her know it.  While many women focus on the praise that the children and husband have for the mother that is not the important lesson.  What is important is that they recognize that she is virtuous because her actions at home, in the privacy of her family, show it just as her actions in public do.

She is greatly respected because she has earned the praise of her family. There can be no higher joy for a mother than for her children to grow up to praise her as the source of the wisdom that made them godly.  While children may not be mature enough to understand this when they are young, they will certainly realize it when they have children of their own!  A Godly woman pursues a course of truth even when her children do not understand what she is doing or complain about the fact that their mother does not let them do what “everyone else’s” mother does.  Her husband is happy that he has found a wife to raise his children in a Godly way.

Building the character and virtue of a trustworthy woman as described in Proverbs 31 is a lifelong endeavor.  However, it is one that offers true joy for those who are willing to do the work necessary to earn the high praise of the husband and family for virtue and righteous living.

Having Confidence in Your Character

Proverbs 31:25-27 “Strength and honour [are] her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.  She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue [is] the law of kindness.  She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”

Have you ever wondered what it looks like when someone has the character of Christ?  In Proverbs 31:25-27, we have a picture of this type of person.  Amazingly, it is not a patriarch like Abraham or an apostle like Paul.  Instead, it is a humble, unnamed woman who nevertheless is held up as an example of Christ’s very spirit and personality.  Proverbs 31 shows us the woman of noble character, and when we emulate the things about her that we learn we can develop the confidence in character ourselves that comes from knowing that we are pursuing the right path.

In verse 25 of Proverbs 31, we see the words that describe the character of a woman who fears the Lord. Her “clothing” displays divine wisdom, giving her confidence to face the future with its unexpected challenges.  She is well covered in the spiritual things of righteousness.

In verse 26, we see a woman who understands wisdom and the law but whose justice is tempered with mercy.  Her speech conveys her wisdom and kindness. Her words build up and do not tear others down. She is not a gossip or a slanderer. When she speaks, it is to help. Her wisdom instructs her children.

In verse 27, we see a woman who is industrious.  Her first thought is for the well-being of the members of her own house.  She is a skilled manager of the home. The “bread of idleness” mentioned in this verse comes from the same root word as the man in Proverbs 6:6 and 6:9 who is described as a “sluggard.”  The root word literally means “eyes looking everywhere.”  A person who eats the bread of idleness is always looking for the next chance to take something from someone else without working for it.

Proverbs 31 gives us a wonderful lesson in the confidence in character we can have when we emulate the woman of noble character.  Like the young women in the Parker Valley series, we can learn to develop this confidence of character.

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